Sometimes I do my best posts (the few I've done) while putting on my make-up in the morning, so by the time I get to the computer, it's totally evaporated from my brain.
Sometimes I think I became "Goofy Grandma" because of all the times I've kicked myself in the head over the many years of my life for all the lame, stupid things I've done as my kids were growing up. One being that I worked all their growing up years. I won't go into the reasons why I had to work, I just had to. I had to go back to work when Jodi was just 6 weeks old--oh, how I cried! Then, 5 years later, I was given the blessing of being home for the first year of Tyler's life, but then, back to work I went. Best year of being a Mommy! I was there for all the cool & not so cool things you do with a baby. I was there to send Jodi off to school & see her happily jump off the school bus coming home. But, then when I went to work, someone else got to be with them during the day. The pain I still feel in my heart because I wasn't there will never go away. (Oh, blubbering won't help me type this. Stop it!) One thing that I was so lucky to have was my Mom who took over caring for the kids some days. The kids still remember those times as being great & are very close to her.
What I'm trying to say is, a friend of Jodi's did an awesome post http://thecrittendenians.blogspot.com/2008/08/i-am-mother.html a little over a week ago (man I hope she doesn't kill me for giving that out!) that really got me thinking about all the things I read in your different blogs about your kids & the stresses & happiness of being a Mommy. For those of you who are blessed to stay home with your children, LOVE EVERY MOMENT you have. Good times & bad. Even when they are the biggest pains in your butt...You're not the "bad" Mommies you might think you are. After your kids have "flown the coop," your life will be VERY different. But then again, you might get to be a "Goofy Grandma," early retired, & able to hang out with them lots--maybe it makes up for some of the lost time.
Well, now that's out of the way, maybe I'll just delete this...or maybe I won't.
Sweet Sixteen for my BABY
1 year ago
7 comments by very nice people:
Can I just say "thank you" You made me cry with your sweet post, and made me doubly thankful it's worked out thus far that I get to be home with my babies. and then I think I bawled reading the one you linked. I hope my blog post about my bad day with my kids I didn't come off as not loving what I do or that I'm home. I know I'm truly very blessed and there's nothing else I'd rather do, even when the days aren't so great. And I think I need to frame that last little rhyme by the unknown author. I always tell my husband (who is frustrated at the disasterous state of our house these days) that I can be a great mom, or I can be a great housekeeper, but I don't have time/energy/patience to be really great at both, and I choose being a really great mom (at least I try to be great). I already feel like I don't have much time with Emily, being as she's at school full day, five days a week, so I'm gonna suck up every last second I can with her in the afternoons and weekends. And Jared is less than a year away from being in a full day school as well. CRY! The time does go fast adn the cleaning will wait.
I'm gonna go grab a tissue and try to mop up some tears now...
You made me cry too... I am gonna blame the pregnancy hormones. :) I don't 'get to' stay at home with my babies but am EXTREMELY blessed to have a mother who is able to watch them in my home. :)
You have always been an awesome mom. You did what you had to do when we were growing up, we know that. Every moment you got to spend with us was great. I am so lucky that you are my mommy and that I get to spend so much time with you now. My kids love you (and I do too) very much and they are so lucky to have you in their lives. Most of my friends don't get to live so close to their moms or spend as much time with their moms as I get to spend with you, and I am so grateful for it. We have a very special relationship that most of them don't have with their moms either. I know we are very lucky for that.
On those "not so good" days with my kids, I'll try to remember how lucky I am to be able to spend all the time with them that I do. Thank you. :0)
Damn it Cheryl I'm crying at work and all the guys are looking at me! :) Damn your sweet kind words! XOXO
Thank you so much for posting that. You made me cry as well. Being a stay at home mom is such a hard job that I forget to count my blessings. Thank you so much for the reminder of what I have and what I'm able to do. I often feel like my "job" is meaningless and you reminded me of it's importance today.
And don't be so hard on yourself. You did what you had to do while your family was growing. YOu have an amazing realationship with your kids and grandkids now, that most people would be jealous of. I would say you have more than made up for time lost.
And I don't mind you putting my link on your blog.(:
I GUESS THAT I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO'S NOT TEARY EYED OVER YOUR POST - - - YES, YOU'RE A GREAT MOM, YES, IT WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER IF YOU'D BEEN ABLE TO SPEND 24/7 WITH YOUR BEAUTIFUL BABIES, BUT, SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO MAKE LEMONADE OUT OF LEMONS. GET USED TO TO FACT THAT LIFE IS TUFF - - -
I showed your blog to Tyler and he always has said what a wonderful and fun mom you were. I can totally see that you are now too. You are a great mother in-law & you can't feel bad about doing what you had to do. I hope I will be able to stay home with kids when we have them someday, or at least work from home. But who knows what life will be like then. All that matters is that the kids are loved, and you did a great job raising Tyler to be a great guy... sometimes a dork, but thats okay hahaha!!
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